To feel as though we belong is a wonderful feeling but that feeling does not come from the group, nor is that feeling LOVE. It is merely a reward system for conforming to the dictates of “The Group”. Like Aladdin’s magic rug it can be pulled out from under us at a moment’s notice. Pats on the back are often the Serpent’s tongue. Sweet is the kiss but that tongue can really give us a good licking.
Everyone likes knowing they are doing good work. “Hey, good job.” But the need for being loved and the desire to know that we are respected means much more. A simple “Thank you” can go a long, long way.
And “I love you” when least expected can go even further.
Thank you. Have a happy Wednesday.